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For this age group of women mid-thirties and up, sometimes I find that guys are sensitive to, “Is she just looking for a sperm donor?
” You don’t want to make a guy feel that anyone will do and you’re looking for some guy to fill a space in your life.
You don’t want to swing the pendulum and say, “I’m looking for marriage and kids.” I don’t think that’s necessary.
Again, we can’t short circuit time and interaction. You don’t need to feel that you should put it all on the table right away.
I don’t think adding a line of, “I’m looking for marriage and kids,” is necessary.
Let’s face it, If you want to create attraction in a woman you must possess the ability to talk.
And a lot of what I learned came through devastating personal experiences, I literally was a classic example of what to do for a large chunk of time.
So when I talk about mistakes women make, understand that it’s coming from a woman who made all these mistakes and who wishes she had someone who knew better to set her straight!
This is because when you start talking to someone new, especially somebody you do not know yet, they are going to be just as cold inside their heads as you were before you psyche yourself up, making yourself ready to start that conversation. By taking control of the conversation right from the beginning, you allow her time to “warm up” and shift her brain from “receive mode” rather than “give mode.” In future lessons I’m going to show you exactly what tools you need to be able to do this but for now, just know you HAVE be prepared to talk 90% of the time for the first 5-10 minutes of your conversations. You have a good sense of when you are boring her, when she is excited and how she is reacting to you. The rule of thumb is when you first start a conversation with someone or with a group of people you want to have a little bit more energy than that group had before you came in.
A conversation needs time to build “conversation momentum.” The problem most guys face is that don’t ever give their conversations a chance to build that “momentum.” Most guys expect to hit this “conversation flow” too quickly, and because of this the opposite effect happens and their conversations just “stall out.” Well you have to carry the conversation. You have to recognize the signals that women are giving to you so you know whether you have got the right kind of emotional intensity, the right energy, and whether the topics you are talking about are actually even appropriate for this point in the conversation. If you get to recognize where she is at in terms of her energy level, her enthusiasm, her excitement, how her neurology is wired up and lit up, and you can pitch your own energy level to be just slightly above that, you will be sure to be a success wherever you go because you will not be too much and you will not be too little.